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Thursday, June 25, 2015

Boaz and Ruth LOVE in 2015

It's important we understand Boaz accepted Ruth where she (was) in life not where he thought she should be. I'm sure there were plenty women more beautiful and successful then Ruth relative to material gain, but Boaz wasn't concerned with that. Success isn't totally based on degrees, accolades and riches. Success is based on your level of happiness within your situation no matter where you are in life.

Oftentimes we miss our blessing because we're looking at the physical alone. We must look at both physical and spiritual. We must be equally yoked: Mentally, sexually, spiritually, educationally, and somewhat financially. It's important to select what you like yet your selection should be more than just physical or material.

Anyone can get married, the challenge is staying married. The challenge is staying romantic. The challenge is staying spiritual. The challenge is staying sexual. The challenge is staying in LOVE. Most (not all) men fail to realize this: Women are about progression and change. Whereas men are about stability and things remaining the same.

Example: A man can work, come home, take out the garbage, watch sports and chill. To him his life and marriage is wonderful, but to his wife their marriage sucks. Why? Because men are familiar with routines. Women are more so creatures of progression. A woman will be at home on the couch with her husband thinking about repainting the walls, time for new furniture, ready to move to a bigger house, ready for another vacation, ready for another date night, etc.

The mind of a woman is always thinking progression. When men understand this is when relationships will last longer. Men must understand marriage is also about competition. Which is why you should always compliment your spouse before anyone else. Continue to further yourself in all aspects of life. If you're gonna be with someone forever you should keep in mind that involves work, but the work has a payoff. Keep your mind on being the best within the competition of love. Remember, in the animal kingdom you must fight and compete to mate. The same is for humans on a more social/intellectual level.

As Mary J. Blige said "I can love you better than she can". As Jamie Foxx said "I can see things ain't right on the home front and she wants me to beat it beat it". Yes my friends, love is about competition. This isn't to say one should feel insecure but one should also understand what can cause him or her to become replaced. It's not the fact you lost your job, it's the fact you became defeated after losing your job and allowed a season of lack to become a permanent lifestyle. Thus s/he got tired of living in poverty and cheated or filed for divorce.

Women have to learn to be patient as well. The way you think marriage is 9 out of 10 isn't correct. The person whose gonna hurt you the most, not support you, break your heart, lie to you the most is your spouse. Not all of it will be intentional nor will it be excusable; however, it's going to happen.

The best way to keep things tight is to be nonjudgmental as it relatives to communication between you and your lover. This comes with time. Once you move pass the stage of thinking making your lover feel inferior is when you'll see progress. I tell couples all the time..."you're on the same team!"

The right one you meet is going to come with baggage, problems, and shortcomings. It's on you to decide what you're willing to put up with. For me I can't handle infidelity nor can I handle being accused of it. People fail to realize the power of their thoughts and their tongue. If you keep accusing your child of stealing out the cookie jar sooner or later s/he just might do it. Why? Because you've already condemned him or her without the payoff now they feel what's the sense of being honorable if I'm being accused? Might as well be accused and enjoy the payoff of the accused. It's not cute or kosher to accuse someone simply based on your insecurities and folly.

Love is like life. It has a start and an end. Who knew the tears that flowed down your face when you said "I do" are the same tears flowing down your face during the divorce process, wow...who knew? This is the results of the little foxes destroying the vine. In your relationship you must kill the little foxes, you must address the little things for they feed and grow into big things. This is why honesty and communication is the key.

Set goals for your relationship. You must have a 2,4,6,8,10 year plan. Baby in 2 years from now I expect us to have our graduate degrees. In 4 years from now I expect us to move into our own home. In 6 years from now I expect us to have children. In 8 years from now I expect us to have our own side business making well over 100k a year, etc... This doesn't have to exactly be the model, but you must create one or slowly lose the love of your life! 

This is how the two of you will build an empire. But you must keep the lines of communication open. Speak up when you're in pain. Speak up when you feel something is unfair. Speak up no matter what, but speak in terms of love and endearment. This isn't corporate America, this is your wife you're talking to. It's okay to speak and cry. Crying only means you're hurting yet you really care. That's what manhood is all about. It's about emotions and intellect wrapped into effective communication.

None of this is possible without the help of GOD. Recognize his strength above your own. Keep GOD as the head and you'll remain ahead of the curve balls life often throws. Watch the overlay for the underplay. Jesus said it best "men should always pray". A man without a prayer life is a man without a compass.

Stay in PEACE,
Dr. Jim Allen
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Monday, June 1, 2015

"Bringing MEN Back To GOD Citywide Tour!"

Manhood University IL Chapter
United In Peace, INC. 

"Bringing MEN back 
to GOD citywide tour!" 

We're asking ALL men to join us as we get ourselves and our families back aligned with God. I sincerely believe if we put our families in God's hands and turn from our wicked ways God will in turn heal our land and prosper our endeavors. Please join us at the below churches. No dress code, come as you are. We're looking forward to seeing each and every one of you! 

Malachi 4:6 

*St. Stephen AME Church 
3040 W. Washington Blvd.
Chicago, IL 
10:45 AM 
(July 5, 2015)

*West Point M.B. Church 
3566 S. Cottage Grove Ave.
Chicago, IL 
10:45 AM 
(July 12, 2015)

*New Life Covenant Church 
UIC Forum 
725 W. Roosevelt Rd.
11:30 AM 
(July 19, 2015) 

*Revival Tabernacle Church 
6415 S. Ashland Ave.
11 AM
(July 26, 2015)

Praying for those caught in the 
revolving doors of poverty, 
recidivism and gang violence! 
Praying for the complete healing of our City

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Ballard Funeral Service (Serving) Illinois!

In times of sorrow and pain you need a funeral service company that's not only sensitive to the needs of your family but also reasonable in pricing as well. Ballard Funeral Service offers just that. The staff at Ballard Funeral Service are patient, understanding, well trained and professional in all aspects of the funeral business. Every family is treated with dignity and respect in their time of bereavement by the staff of Ballard Funeral Service.

Ballard Funeral Service is headed by Denesha Ballard a Chicagoan. She attended and graduated from Luther High School and Worsham College with a degree in Mortuary Science. Ballard Funeral Service is African-American owned and operated. When creating the vision for Ballard Funeral Service, Ms. Ballard wanted to make sure Ballard Funeral Service was not just another ordinary funeral service which is why their packaging relative to prices are less than most funeral services yet their services are top notch. 

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"At Ballard Funeral Service we embrace the importance, individuality and richness of each person's life. Not only is it our goal to meet the expectations of families whom have trusted us with carrying out the selected funeral arrangements of those dear to them but we strive to make it a momentous occasion. We seek a greater way to provide a meaningful celebration of lives well lived" - Denesha Ballard, President 

I highly recommend Ballard Funeral Service for all your funeral needs. Give your loved one the best you can give by entrusting Ballard Funeral Service. With a starting price of only $5,000 Ballard Funeral Service can provide your loved one and your family a proper and decent service, trust'll be glad you called Ballard Funeral Service. Be sure to follow Ballard Funeral Service on facebook. Please click below link:

Written By:
Jim Allen 

Saturday, May 23, 2015

ATTENTION: Rappers & Artists! We Have Beats For You!

Looking to buy great beats for your next release or album? Look no further! Free Soul Music Productions has a great list of beats and sounds sure to take your lyrics to the next level. Every good song becomes a great song when paired with the right beat and sound, that's what Free Soul Music Productions provide. 

Free Soul Music Productions is operated by Jounta "Ghost Ghetti" Colvin who began rapping and producing music in 2003. Since that time he has recorded 7 cds, produced thousands of beats and recorded and produced tracks for many local artists in Chicago and the Midwest of the United States of America. 

"The wonderful thing about 
Free Soul Music Productions is 
you can buy beats online 
directly from their website!" 

Along side producing and recording "The Ghost" also manages an internet radio show called Free Soul Radio which host local artist's singles and promote their mixtapes and albums. For more on Free Soul Music Productions please click the below LINK:

Beats start as low as $15! 
You're sure to find a beat 
suitable for your record or entire album. 

Written By:
Jim Allen

Thursday, May 14, 2015

Manhood University IL Chapter (Father's Day Breakfast)

Fellowship | Networking | Fatherhood 

Manhood University IL Chapter will host a "Father's Day Breakfast!" All FATHERS' are invited. Come out and meet other great fathers, stepfathers, and grandfathers. Food prices are only $12-$15 (meal)! Great parking! Also in attendance will be multimillionaire businessman, world renowned photographer and author of the book Choosing Fatherhood: America's Second Chance, Mr Lewis Kostiner.

Wishbone Restaurant 
10 AM  
1001 W. Washington BLVD.
Chicago, IL. 60607  


Saturday, May 2, 2015

Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance

By: Jim Allen

I'm reading an amazing book called Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance. I highly recommend this book for (ALL) fathers, step-fathers, grandfathers and even mentors. The photography of various fathers with their children is simply awesome. The stories are guaranteed to make you cry, think, smile and transform into being a better man and most of all a better father/dad. I've always said the greatest fraternity is FATHERHOOD and this book proves just that. This book is a must Father's Day gift. Below are some excerpts from the book I posted to my facebook page. 

Despite the multitudes of changes that fathers experienced during the past several centuries, fatherhood did not emerge as a major focus in social science research until the 1970's, coinciding with notions about the "new nurturing father" - from the book Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance.
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The importance of the paternal role, particularly for middle-class adult Caucasian males, is said to have originated in the colonial era of U.S. history, when a father was considered the dominant parent and assumed the role of "the moral teacher". During this time, work and family life were interconnected, and fathers interacted closely and frequently with children. Paternal duties included supervision of child-rearing activities and decision-making power in economic, legal, medical matters, and, in particular, moral and religious guidance. Evidence indicates that fatherhood in American Indian and African-American families during this era may have exhibited a wider range of emotional expression than that demonstrated in European-American cultures. - Pg. 139 from the book Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance.
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Beginning in the nineteenth century, the system of labor during the Industrial Revolution took the agrarian father out of the family and placed him in factories and offices. This separated him from his son, who had been working along his side and who had been learning from him directly - from the book: Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance.
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"...being a good father means building a strong family, an act that traverses time. Being a good father reverberates long beyond our own life spans as an echo across the ages. The absence of a father has a similarly long-lasting impact" - from the book: Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance.
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"Recently, the Brookings Institute declared that the state of fatherhood in the United States is among the most serious problems confronting the nation: equal to or greater than the economy, education, the environment, health care, infrastructure, poverty, you name it" - from the book Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance.
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"...the United States of America, more than 24,000,000 children are living with no fathers present to help raise the kids" - from the book: Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance.
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It's important to note this book is the work and genius of Lewis Kostiner a multimillionaire businessman and world renown photographer. Mr. Kostiner also touches on his inner demons relative to his biological father not being in his life. Oftentimes we tend to think fatherless homes are an African-American phenomenon when in fact its more so an American crisis. 

Lewis Kostiner and his wife Anne Kostiner 

This book is different from the rest because it focuses on fathers regardless of their socioeconomic status trying their best to positively impact the lives of their children. Choosing Fatherhood America's Second Chance gives social science stats, but also gives real life solutions for fathers to succeed. Such solutions are unique and have been proven because the solutions come from the testimony of the fathers featured in the book. Thus the book isn't theory but a pragmatic, didactic yet simple way to be a great father/dad. Please order this book by clicking the below LINKS:


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Malcolm Crawford, Jim Allen, Lewis Kostiner

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Pastors REBUILDING Chicago's Hoods!


Community Advocacy Research Economics is looking for 10 Pastors who will take on the task of economically revitalizing Chicago. We already have a basic, simple yet solid plan. Our goal is for 10 very influential pastors in Chicago to unite and humbly ask their members and all that follow them on social media to sow a seed of $100 for the purpose of buying franchises and building businesses on the South and West Sides of Chicago. 

We're trying to reach 100,000 church members per quarter in donating $100 equaling a total of 10,000,000 dollars per quarter. Each quarter we'll build a business on both sides of town. This way both sides of town are equally benefiting. Of course we will setup a website for members to donate. This project will have a lawyer and an accountant for legal purposes. 

I've already put this project-idea on social media and many are excited to be a part of something so great. Please contact me if you are a pastor in Chicago and you're interested. Also follow C.A.R.E. on facebook by clicking the below link:

Jim Allen, Minister